The relationship with your parents is a highly irreplaceable one. Whether the relationship was good, bad, or indifferent, the death of a parent, will have you going through feelings of loss. Losing someone has never been easy to cope with and it is only natural that you feel different, and this usually turns out to be an understatement. In most cases, love for our parents is huge and somehow, even though it is natural that a parent dies before their child, it is never easy to cope with such loss. It is the goal of this article to help you find your way to cope with death of a parent – hold on we are with you.
Dealing with the death of a parent
The Uniqueness of Grief
There’s a reason why the saying “everyone griefs in their own way” is so popular – because it really is the truth. No one grieves in the same way, although there are certain patterns of behavior that distinguish this unfortunate feeling. Not only is the way you grieve influenced by the kind of person you are, but it is also based on the relationship with the passed parent – something different for every single one of us. This all results in everyone grieving in their own way, usually, yet not as a rule, in their own time. Instead of trying to compare what you’re going through with experiences of other people, embrace your own nature and take it one day at a time.
A Variety of Emotions
There is no way to prepare for a multitude of emotions one experiences after losing a parent. The unique bond created at birth and torn at death will cause your brain to go haywire, experiencing a ton of different emotions as a result. In addition to confusion, guilt, fear and numbness, you should expect the following, at the very least:
Dysfunctional and/or abusive families often evoke a feeling of anger in individuals who have experienced a loss of a parent. This is caused by the fact that this anger has ended up unresolved and, therefore, poisonous for the way you grieve. However, on the other hand, the feeling of anger can be caused by an ending to a loving relationship, rendering you furious at life in general. The feeling of anger is most easily solved by digging deeper into the problem, plucking the proverbial torn out before your daily life gets infected.
Although this might be something that you expected to happen, chances are, you’ll end up surprised at the mind-boggling depth of your feelings of loss. The key here, as many funeral homes suggest, is to let go and let yourself embrace the pain.
Common in cases of a rocky relationship with parents, the feeling of guilt is usually caused by the fact that you can no longer apologize or unsay hurtful words. Working through the feeling of guilt is vital for carrying on with your life in a proper way.
If your parent was sick for a time before the death, it is only natural that you feel relief. On this note, forgive yourself for feeling relief, seeing as how it is only normal.
Connect with Your Family
The best way to cope with loss is to connect with those that feel similar, and who better to turn to, than to those that knew him the best. You will find a comfortable embrace among your relatives and the unfortunate event might even bring you closer to your family. In any case, you can rest assured that the parent who passed would appreciate this deeply.
Struggling with the death of a parent has never supposed to be easy. You need to find your way to cope, but more importantly, this has a solid virtue of making you grow stronger as a person. Embrace your grief and embrace your loved ones – they are everything you have.